Guys that have never been to Thailand before will often ask me how I interact with bar girls. Even guys that have some negative experiences have talked to me and after much discussion understood why they have a less than stellar time.
In this article I will discuss some key concepts on having a great experience with a Thai bar girl or Thai go go girls. This can also apply to freelancers that you see on the street in the red light districts or even outside of these areas.
Most guys on their first experience in a beer bar or go-go will just spot a girl they want, buy a lady drink or two, bar fine them and head to the hotel – if she wants to go with you. Remember, they can refuse. This is perfectly fine if you have a goal set and just want to get it over with.
However, if you are like me and want to have the best possible experience for your money in Thailand, then read on.
So if you want to accomplish the following things, then keep reading.
- Avoid having the girl turn a “long time” into “short time”
- Making “friends” with bar girls so you can potentially have free sex with them at a later date
- Reducing the “risk” of your bar fined thai girl becoming a starfish
You see, Thai women are very different from western women. When it comes to the bar girls, you need to know how to interact with them and create a good rapport.
Thai girls want you to be direct. They don’t want you to beat behind the bush so to speak. The behaviors are very different compared to western girls. After dealing and interacting with these girls I started to notice similar patterns and how to be more engaged with them.
So without dragging this further, here are my tips on how to deal with these kind of girls in Thailand.
Thai Bar Girls: How to Spot the Good Ones
Now, when I say good, I don’t mean girls that are angels. What I mean by this is the ones that will give you an amazing experience that you will never forget. Have you ever been on a bad date that you wish would just end? It could get to that point really quick if you jump the gun here.
So if you are walking either down Soi Cowboy, through Soi Cowboy or even in a bar or Go-Go, the first thing you want to do is pay attention to the girls that are checking YOU out. Don’t look for the hottest girl thinking you’re going to have a marvelous time with her.
If the girl is smiling at you, or even approaches you, then you have accomplished the first step in having a great time. Go have a drink with her if you find her attractive. She’s interested in you if she’s acting this way so it will definitely be easier to interact with her because she likes you already.
After one drink and you aren’t feeling it, then you are free to “look around.”
Of course these girls are looking for money too, but that doesn’t make them any less of a person. Everyone needs money to live and if you treat them with respect you’ll get it back.
So the lesson here is this. Treat bar girls like you would with any girl. Think of them as a girl you met at a supermarket or through friends. The balance will tip in your favor if you have an attitude like this. This is the essential first step to having a great experience.
Go With Your Instincts When it comes to Bar Girls
Getting back to my previous point, if you think the girl is hot, and she approached you and seems genuine in her interaction with you – take advantage of it.
If you feel that she is just in it for the money, then walk away. I am sure you have had plenty of interactions with ‘normal’ girls to understand what that feels like. If something feels wrong then just walk away – no harm done.
When in Thailand and ingesting your self in the nightlife, it’s all about having a good experience with a girl. Once you do this a few times you’ll know exactly how to find the best bar girls available.
Believe it or not once you get to know some of these bar girls there’s always a possibility of getting free sex from them occasionally. This is why it’s important to establish good rapport with them from the beginning so the likelihood of this happening is even greater. Show them you’re a nice guy and you’ll probably get laid for free if you just take them out for a nice dinner. Hey, food is cheap in Thailand so it’s a win-win!
You can always try getting her Line ID while in the bar and not bar fining her right away. If she really likes you, you might even get a freebee from her if you take her out on her night off or something. Again I stress, treat these girls like any other girl and you’ll be miles ahead. I’ve done this many times and it’s a great strategy. Just be genuine and be yourself.
About Allowing the Girl to Choose You
To my point earlier, if a girl is smiling at you and shows interest, this is a good sign and a great start. If you think she’s attractive with a nice body and could see yourself with her, then you should consider the opportunity.
This works very well with Go go girls. If going to a go-go, just sit, relax and have a drink. Take a look around and see how the girls interact with the guys. Look to see if any of them make eye contact with you or smile at you. If none of this happens and you’re getting a bad vibe in the place, finish your beer and head out. There’s plenty more bars to experience.
Chances are though if you are not dressed like a bum, look respectable and seem to be enjoying yourself you will have eye contact with some of the ladies. You don’t need to be Brad Pitt, just be presentable. Remember, Thai girls love foreigners and love to hang out with them – sex included.
How to Talk to Thai Girls
Thai people in general are very jovial and they love to joke around. The same can be said for bar girls as they are no different. When you talk to them, don’t be too serious, joke around as much as you can as they will love this. Even if it’s silly, just do it.
When a Thai girl talks to you, she will test you with questions. Don’t be direct with your answers. Don’t give a boring answer to your question. Tease them with an obvious lie to make them wonder more about you. A western girl would probably look at your strangely if you did this but Thai girls love it. Make them curious about you.
It’s important to not show them too much attention either. Sure you can compliment them on their looks, but don’t seem too interested. Be playful and joke around and don’t make yourself seem so desperate to go home with them. When they see that you are a relaxed guy, they will be more open to have some fun with you.
Discussing Prices With Bar Girls
So you’re either at Soi Cowboy, Nana Plaza or a go go bar in Patong. You’re having a lady drink with your girl. The conversation is good, she’s grinding on your lap and you’re having fun. If she really feels comfortable talking to you and letting you feel her up, chances are she is going to ask you something like, “do you want to go with me?” or, “what are you doing after?”. This is where you can decide whether you want to take her home or not and your next move will determine this.
If you are just there for some fun and not want to take her home with you, then just be up-front with her. You could end up just getting some lap-dances from her and continue to buy lady drinks which is fine.
However, if you want to take this to the next level, then you will need to bar-fine her. A bar fine is a fee you pay the bar to take your girl out of the bar.
It’s important that up to this point you have not shown her too much interest because if she knows you really want her, her price will most likely be higher.
The same goes for anything really. For example if you are looking to buy a used car. If you show too much interest, the salesman will notice this and try to squeeze every dollar out of you and not have to work hard to convince you.
So how much does it cost for a bar girl in Thailand?
It’s important to know that this is just a rough guideline but pretty accurate. Prices can vary for each girl depending on their “hotness scale”, age, and where they work.
Beer Bar Girls
- Bar fine average is 300-500 baht
- Short Time – 1000-1500 baht
- Long Time – 2000-2500 baht
GoGo Bar Girls
- Bar fine average is 600-1000 baht
- ST – 2000-2500 baht
- LT – 2500-3000 baht
- No bar fine – yay!
- ST – 500-1000 baht
- LT – 1000-2000 baht
These price ranges are accurate and what you can expect to pay in Thailand. You should not be paying higher than this.
If for example the gogo girl wants 3500 or more, then you are over-paying. If she’s extremely hot and you have to have her, the choice is yours but keep in mind – you can bargain with these girls. Just don’t be cheap. If you stick to the above prices as a guideline, you won’t offend them because they are already aware. You can’t blame them for trying to get more money from you.
Location can also dictate price as prices in Nana Plaza may start off higher because a lot of tourists were paying for whatever the girls were asking. Asian guys and mostly the Koreans do this a lot so it’s probably one of the reasons prices have gone up.
Stick to the guidelines though and you’ll not have to pay more than what I outlined. If you followed my rules on picking your girl, then these prices should be easily attained.